I wanted to share a metaphor that came to me out of the blue (as the best things do) while on a call with someone recently.
As a three principles coach and teacher, I sometimes get asked “how can the principles help with x” or “I’m not seeing results with the techniques/strategies I’m currently trying, how is this different?”
The beautiful thing about this conversation is it rests on (or more accurately, under) a deeper level than whatever technique, method or concept they’re contrasting it with.
It’s the difference between comparing forms at the level of form versus stepping back and looking at that which creates form.
I know that this conversation is unique and impactful because it’s looking in the direction of universal truths.
No dogma, no tools, no how-tos, no beliefs, no blueprints, no steps, no strategies…
I’m not interested in giving people more helpful ways of thinking about things. I’m not interested in redirecting or reframing their thinking. I’m not interested in switching their oranges for kiwis.
I’m interested in showing them the buffet and introducing them to the kitchen.
Imagine there are these beautiful mountains sitting in the wilderness.
These mountains have existed since before we were born. They’ve always been there, solid, stable, permanent… they just haven’t always been visible to us.
One day you’re on a hiking trip in the forest and you catch a glimpse of them between the trees. You keep walking towards them until you reach the edge of the forest and stand on the shore gazing in wonderment at these mountains.
These mountains don’t care what you do with their discovery. They don’t care if you know about them. They don’t care if you worship them. They don’t care if you tell others about them. They don’t care how often you see them, what your opinion of them is, or how they fit into your life.
They simply are.
Every person who views them will describe them differently. They’ll use different language. They’ll have different views depending on where they’re standing in relation to them (literally and metaphorically).
Everyone will have a different relationship to them.
Everything from not knowing they even exist to thinking they’re the most beautiful things they’ve ever come across to being completely indifferent to them.
And yet, they simply are.
Our relationship to them is our relationship to them; it impacts us to see what’s always been there, always been true, always been in existence.
But our knowing of what’s there doesn’t change what was always there, it simply changes our knowing.
What’s there is just what’s there. Truly, it’s not about us.
Gravity is because gravity is. Gravity’s pull doesn’t depend on our “discovering”, “naming”, “theorizing”, “analyzing”, “studying” or “mathematically quantifying” in order for it to be true.
The principles are because the principles are.
This is why I find it hard to answer the “how does this compare to the Linden method?” type questions, because one is looking at an apple (the form) and the other is looking at how apple trees grow to produce apples (the formless constant behind life).
And when people ask me “how will the principles help my anxiety/conflict/drinking/weight-loss/health/depression/work-life balance/creativity/stress/relationship/performance/sleep, etc, etc… I have one simple answer.
No matter what people are up against, humans do really well when they understand how something works, and really poorly when they don’t.
The principles are simply a description of the everlasting, impersonal, universal forces that operate human beings.
They simply are, and seeing what simply is tends to be profoundly impactful for human beings. It’s as simple as that.